Mature love. Do I have that? I mean, I love my husband. Absolutely I do. And after what is soon to be six years just around the corner, I love him more today than the day I married him. Goodness sakes, I know that probably seems like a very short time to some.
I’m happy to say I have witnessed many marriages that have outlived the 50-year mark, including my grandparents from both sides of my family. So, some may even think it would be foolish to think I could have really, truly mature love at this point. And I get that. I know we will grow so much more over the years. But, I want to do all that I can to be the wife that God created for my husband. And sometimes, I definitely miss the mark.
In arguments I may pout, make snappy comebacks, do things I know will convey that I’m not happy or I think he is wrong. How many times do I listen intently, pray, and trust God to change my husband’s heart or, even more, trust Him to change MY heart? Do I think often enough about how I can be lifting him up?
I think as a culture we’ve bought in to the lies that if we’ve not done anything really wrong, then we’re okay and we can just skimp on by. My last blog post introduced a book by Darlene Schacht, a woman who has been transparent enough with “painful honesty” to share her sin, and remind me that there is so much more to daily honoring my husband in ways that the world may see as little but God sees as obedient and sacrificial.
Part of me wishes I could list quote after quote until I’d probably have shared most of the book (though keep reading to find out how I might just do that for you). I’ll try and stick to just a few and maybe you’ll get a glimpse of how really, really good and relevant this book is.
When marriage functions as God intended it, both a husband and a wife bring glory to God. My mission is to remind women of this truth so that we might live out our purpose, which is to love our husbands, raise our children with intent, and manage our homes well. In doing so, we strengthen the bond of marriage and glorify God.
Love is deliberate, it’s intentional, it’s purposeful, and in the end it’s worth every minute that you give of yourself to another.
Marriage is a thousand little things. It’s giving up your right to be right in the heat of an argument. It’s forgiving another when he lets you down. It’s loving someone enough to step down so he can shine.
Is this book perfect? Maybe not. But a perfect book would just bring us to shame. I think instead the author is asking us to come to our knees and seek the One who sees the best in us, in our spouse, and in a marriage He wants to be a picture to the world of Christ’s love for the Church.
Now, you’re wondering how I’m going to share this whole book with you, aren’t you? Did you see the words “Give Away” in the title of this post? I love that I have been able to share this book with you as part of a launch team. And am I sharing it just because I’m on the launch team? No. I think this book can be a game changer for so many. In fact, before I had signed up for the launch, I had already pre-ordered my copy of the book. It is my privilege though to be allowed to give away a copy of this book- a definite exciting perk. So here’s how it will work: leave a comment before Tues night (9/232) at midnight MST and I will at random choose the winner and make an announcement in the comment section on Monday of who it is. You can tell me why you want the book, ask me any curious question you have or just say hi.