I don’t want to be in this place. I’ve been determined many times before to change. But here I am again. I’ve been had. By a big bully. His name is Procrastination. And he has friends. The thing is I’ve been learning about these bullies lately. I’ve been reading The Cure for the “Perfect” Life by Kathi Lipp and Cheri Gregory. To be honest I didn’t think at first that this book would have as much to say to me as it did. I certainly don’t think of myself as a perfectionist. No, Perfectionism doesn’t speak to me much at all. Now, Procrastination and I, however, have danced many a time and I also have been swayed by Performancism and People-Pleasing, sometimes even more than I realized. Why do we listen to these bullies? What can we do about it?
I’ve gotten some really good perspective changes, “ways to stop trying harder and start living braver.” But for me just reading about them once doesn’t quite do the trick. I have a feeling this book will be one I’ll be turning back to for a while and really studying and applying. Which brings us back to where I started this post. I had originally intended to post about this book later in the month. But, the messages about dealing with procrastination were so eye opening to me and made so much sense that I wanted it to be my very next post I wrote. If you choose to really look at my blog you’ll notice that it has one other post. Okay, maybe not so odd you might think. Until you notice it’s date. May 14. Almost three months ago!
Yes, I have two very busy little girls. Yes, I’ve been sick a lot this summer. But three months! I don’t think I’ll be a daily blogger by any means but what is it that has really kept me from posting. It’s not for lack of ideas or lack of something to say (my Cozi Journal has plenty of notes with thoughts I want to share). It’s just something I keep putting off for another day. Then to, it’s that little thought in the back of my head , two bullies working together, telling me that if I can’t get it done and ready to post right away then I shouldn’t bother. I saw a Facebook post of a quote that caught me right between the eyes. “The worst thing you write is better than the best thing you did not write.”
So… coming back around and trying to pull this altogether… I reset my due date for this post as August 12 knowing I would need to do some work to get it done and ready. I certainly didn’t want to be writing it on the 12th, my oldest daughter’s birthday , which she was sure to tell everyone about tonight at a church gathering as she proudly went around holding up four fingers. Yes, you read that right, tonight. I’m trying to pull this altogether tonight, the 11th. I procrastinated. And that is something I will be working on.
One more thought: I said that in the beginning I didn’t think this book was going to have as much to say to me as it did. So what about you, should you read it? (Yes, yes, yes, I say with a smile). Try this quote on for size: “Some chapters will hit home with you more than others. For the ones that don’t really feel like they apply to you, here’s a suggestion: try reading them to better understand someone in your life who does struggle with that particular bully belief.”
In closing, while I wish this could be more polished, and do the right justice to this awesome book I’ve read, I won’t give in to the need for it to be perfect or to give up because I think no one will really read it anyhow. I’m choosing to be brave. I’m choosing to move forward. And I praise God for every lesson I’m learning along the way. How will I know when I’ve arrived? Well I probably never completely will this side of heaven, but, “Peace is the litmus test, indicating whether our choices are driven by fear or motivated by love.”
About the Authors:
Kathi Lipp is the author of The Husband Project, The Me Project, The Get Yourself Organized Project, 21 Ways to Connect With Your Kids, and several other books. Kathi’s articles have appeared in dozens of magazines, and she is a frequent guest on Focus on the Family radio and TV. She and her husband Roger are parents of four young adults in San Jose, California. Kathi shares her story at retreats, conferences, and women’s events across the United States. Connect with her at http://www.KathiLipp.com, on Facebook at http://www.Facebook.com/AuthorKathiLipp, or on Twitter @KathiLipp.
Cheri Gregory is a Certified Personality Trainer; contributor to multiple books, including Wired That Way and 21 Ways to Connect With Your Kids; and frequent speaker for MOPS groups, women’s retreats, parent workshops, and educational conferences. She is also a high school English teacher and graduate student. Cheri has been “wife of my youth” to Daniel (her opposite personality), a pastor, for over a quarter-of-a-century; they have two college-aged kids (who are also opposite personalities). She blogs about expectations, “baditude”, and hope at http://www.CheriGregory.com. Connect with her on Facebook at http://www.Facebook.com/Cheri.Gregory.Author and Twitter @CheriGregory.
About the Book:
Website Link: http://www.TheCureForThePerfectLife.com
FREE download of Chapter 1: http://www.thecurefortheperfectlife.com/downloads/chapter1.pdf
Facebook Page (aka “Braver Living Rebel Headquarters”):
Barnes & Noble link (we’d like to support B&N as they’ve been VERY supportive to us!)